Does My Bum Look Big In This?


The very worst time for a woman to decide to hit the shops is when she feels fat or is at war with her own image. On days like these, your best option is to grab a gorgeous handbag – you don’t need to try it on and you know it will look great on your shoulder. Alternatively, you could settle for a pair of gorgeous new shoes that will transform many outfits.

There are some days when you wake up and just feel frumpy. Chances are you haven’t actually morphed overnight into this perceived, plumper version of yourself. You’re probably just having one of those days when you simply feel uncomfortable in your own skin.

If you’re feeling flabby, don’t go on a shopping spree. The changing rooms will only compound your sense of discomfort and have you hot-footing it to the nearest fast food outlet to seek succour from this soul-destroying sensation. What’s interesting is that such a reaction to one’s own reflection is, inevitable exceptions aside, largely restricted to the female race. Would a male member of the population realistically consider the emotional merits of trying on endless pairs of mens jeans when they’re channelling a little more chunk?

The findings of a study focusing on why women seem to be so much more dissatisfied with their bodies than men would suggest that in response to the above question it would be unlikely. When presented with computer generated images of fat people in swimsuits, there was a marked difference in the response of men and women and their associated brain activity. The part of the brain involved in self-reflection was instantly active in all the women, but unresponsive in the men.

It would suggest then that women are much more prone to comparison and negative assessment when it comes to their own reflection. A woman is more likely to focus on every flaw, whereas men tend to feel pretty pleased with the person looking back at them. Whether men just have an inflated sense of their own appearance is of course open to debate.

The study didn’t suggest the reason for the differing brain reactions to be biological but rather concluded it to be the result of cultural and social influences. When you consider the barrage of media images portraying what is considered to be culturally attractive for a female, it’s hardly surprising that the majority of women in this day and age fear being fat.


Rae Abigael J. Caacbay is a young creative who went through a quarter life crisis by the end of 2016. Though she's still lost, she keeps on moving forward anyway as a ballerina, visual artist, lifestyle blogger, and a BS Interior Design graduate based in the Philippines.


  1. Totally agree on this. I've never seen a man getting depressed over another masculine guy, or constantly comparing himself to prettier men, they just don't fucking care. So should women. We really should stop being so self critical. I have crappy days too and feel like a potato, or an ugly cockroach, but they pass with a good beer :D

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  4. Oh, this is so true! It comes down to confidence. Men have an overabundance and women could use a little more! We just need to love our bodies and be grateful for true beauty, what is inside!

    Love your very interesting and wonderful blog! I am now following. Thank you for your sweet comments on my blog. xx

    1. Yep! Just accept and love our bodies. :)))
      Thanks for following Karen! very flattered. (: